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This is a disaster already. Can you alert brother’s family and plan a day of everyone coming over to put up her decorations, then another day to come over and take them down afterward? It’s too bad that mom expects you to handle all this yourself. Christmas with old people is so stressful!
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Summernole Nov 2022
I like your idea of having the family come help with the decorations but I don't think my Mom will. My brother works long hours and she never wants to ask too much of him. He also has his own home to decorate. I will figure something out.
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You don't provide any information about whether your Mother has a diagnosis of cognitive or memory impairment but it sounds like she could have the beginnings of dementia by what you describe.

The caregiving arrangement has to work for both parties. Sounds like it is not working for you rirght now. I strongly recommend getting her tested so you know what you're dealing with. I learned a lot by watching Teepa Snow videos on YouTube. There are ways to interact with our LOs with dementia to make everyday engagement more peaceful and productive. She can't help having dementia. You need to alter your strategy and perceptions so that you don't burn out.

When my MIL was in decline, I arrranged a special decorating day with her and her grandkids. I put on Christmas music and made cookies for them (or they made "easy" cookies together). You don't have to get her "buy in" for plans -- do what is the least stressful for you. There are no wrong answers.
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Summernole Nov 2022
Mom was diagnosed with mild cognitive disorder. She seems pretty sane but has zippo energy and her memory is bad. My brother and his wife both work and are busy. Mom would not want me to ask them to come help decorate. His children are grown and have moved away. I have no children and Mom has no grandchildren so having them all come over and decorate will not work. I will do the best I can.
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