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My Mother lived a healthy life until she was 98. She was not sick and died a natural, easy death in her very own bed. We were very close. Unfortunately she died about a half hour before I got to her home. She looked as beautiful as ever, lying in her pristine bedroom. I lay down next to her and held her graceful hand for a while.

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Valentine,
Not strange at all for you to want to be close to your mom. . I am glad you had that time with her and her passing was so gentle.
I have a memory of a cousin who climbed up in the hospital bed with her grandmother, my aunt. She cried her eyes out and held her grandmother. She was a young mother who would bring her children in to visit and would be bright and chipper with the children, but when she arrived alone that day she was the grandchild needing to hold her grandmother one last time.

I am sorry for your loss.
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Valentine, I think that is a natural response especially if you were very close like you said. Probably not as unusual as you may think. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Your post had me bursting out in tears (sorry I cry easily). It’s the saddest story yet very sweet at the same time. I’m glad you got to hold her and say goodbye 😊
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No, it's actually quite beautiful. How blessed you were to have such a special bond with your mom. That's a sweet memory you will have until you see her again. God bless you.
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I too think there was nothing wrong in doing this. And the post brought tears to my eyes.
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This is definitely not unusual. Our society has unrealistic expectations on behavior after a parent dies, and your behavior seems COMPLETELY normal to me! I too was brought to tears. I am so sorry for your loss.
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Not unusual at all. In fact, your mother's soul knew you were lying with her and holding her hand, saying goodbye and feeling sad at the profound loss. Sometimes our loved ones do not want us there with them as they take their last breath; they don't want to leave us with that last painful memory of them. I was not there when my dad took his last breath, and I'm glad I wasn't. Now I don't have to dwell on that terrible sound and sight, and can instead remember him healthy and laughing in earlier times. That's how we heal.

Wishing you healing, my friend, and my condolences on your loss.
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Not unusual at all. I am so sorry for your loss. When my mother was in the hospital with her stroke, the very last day she was alive and in a coma, i was thinking to myself, i wish i could crawl in the bed with her. I wanted to give her one last hug goodbye. But the hospital bed was way too small.
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Blessings to you both. NO ONE REALLY KNOWS the Sacred Moment when the Soul departs.
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I'm so sorry for your great loss, Valentine. And no, it's not unusual for you to snuggle with her. I hope being with your mother brought you comfort and peace. I also have no doubt she knew you were there and held her. *hug*
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