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Only if you can be responsible for my happiness. And if so I would like a Pint of Ben and Jerry Pish Food delivered by 7:30 PM. And the bathrooms cleaned some time this week, I am not picky about what day.
No one is responsible for anyone's happiness other than the person themselves. You can be responsible for her well being. For her basic needs clothing, food, safe housing. That is being done by her SNF, and you are an advocate for her in that respect. When you visit you can do what you can but that also is mostly up to her.
The facility can care for her, can try to get her involved as much as she is able. But they also can not "force" someone to be happy, participate.
Of course you're not!!! The only persons happiness you're responsible for is your own. Your mom is a grown woman, and has the choice (like we all do) to feel how she wants to feel. That's on her not you.
I think that you likely understand very well that you aren't responsible for your mother's happiness, and that there is very little you can do to "make her happy". In all truth life isn't about "happy". There is good and there is bad, and for our elders, esp in care of hospital, snf, LTC, it is definitely not a happy thing. There is loss after loss after loss from dignity to bodily function, and there is no upside coming. This downward slide continues until death. I think what we ask of our elders often enough is to PRETEND it's OK. It isn't. And why should they pretend it is. There is also the fact that people have differing attitudes to life. Was your mother EVER a really happy positive person? If not, then she sure won't be made better by the aging process. You might consider some therapy to help you understand that your own satisfaction in life, your own choices, your own "happiness" isn't dependent on your Mom. I sure do wish you good luck. You may feel grief in witnessing your Mom's losses and consequent her own grief, but don't mistake that for the other G word. That is for evil felons, and I doubt you are that. I sure wish you the best going forward.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
No one is responsible for anyone's happiness other than the person themselves.
You can be responsible for her well being. For her basic needs clothing, food, safe housing. That is being done by her SNF, and you are an advocate for her in that respect. When you visit you can do what you can but that also is mostly up to her.
The facility can care for her, can try to get her involved as much as she is able. But they also can not "force" someone to be happy, participate.
I think what we ask of our elders often enough is to PRETEND it's OK. It isn't. And why should they pretend it is. There is also the fact that people have differing attitudes to life. Was your mother EVER a really happy positive person? If not, then she sure won't be made better by the aging process.
You might consider some therapy to help you understand that your own satisfaction in life, your own choices, your own "happiness" isn't dependent on your Mom.
I sure do wish you good luck. You may feel grief in witnessing your Mom's losses and consequent her own grief, but don't mistake that for the other G word. That is for evil felons, and I doubt you are that.
I sure wish you the best going forward.
Your mother's happiness comes from within. If she is depressed, anxious, ruminative, she may need meds to help with that.