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98 year old mom. Most of time mentally alert. Narcissistic, seasonal affective disorder and sundowners. I took care of my mom 24/7 2019 to 2023. Only 2 sibs left 77 y.o. sister with serious mental health problems. Has husband who takes care of her. Brother 70 liver transplant multiple health problems Short term memory problems. Taken care of by wife. Sister persuades mom to get her partial POA for herself and brother. No one tells me. As soon as my mother leaves the farm to move to town I am served with an eviction notice. Been in court for a year. Sister has threatened leave, sign yourself off farm partnership or get sued for elder abuse. She has testified in court I verbally and physically abuse my mom and call her a big fat ugly b***h. Constantly told never to see mom ever again or she will call law enforcement. Sister lives on the east coast. Brother leaves 45 mins away but can't drive. I visit mom periodically she invites me in and to sit down. She won't talk about any of this. I have never abused quite frankly its my mother who is abusive. Sister is hoping mom and brother will die with me gone forever she has the farm worth millions. Can I sue my sister for defamation. How about perjury?

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Get an attorney. You can't walk away from your partnership in the farm, so you will need an attorney dealing with partnerships in business.

As far as sibling mess goes, walk away from it. Tell them to go kick rocks. Don't waste your time fighting with them. They can tie you up in court for years to come over nonsense. I'm quite sure you've done your very best with your mom, but it comes a time to let go. It sounds like your sibs are being taken over by greed. Sibs want you out of the way like yesterday. I re-read your posts and mom is out of the home, so why are your siblings making these accusations after the fact? They now have a POA and served you with an eviction notice? Is your mom fueling these tales about elder abuse? Again, see an attorney.

Now, if you are anyway responsible for the farm which it sounds you are, get a good lawyer who can see you through on what will be the correct actions to make. I'm not familiar with farm law, but since this sounds like a farming community, I'm quite sure there are lawyers who practice in this area.

As far as sister goes, it sounds like she is blowing smoke outta her rear end. Anyone can make accusations, but what proof does she have? She is trying to bully you out of your share of the farm. In this case fight back, but not against the accusations. This is to protect your partnership in the business.

Don't walk away from your partnership. Can you sell out of it and get paid?
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An actual attorney is the only one able to give you an accurate answer to your question. We can't help you here. We're only caregivers and private citizens on an anonynous global forum so there's no consequences or accountability if we give you incorrect guidance. We don't even know what state you live in. And farm property I think is different than just single dwelling non-working residences. Please talk to an attorney and don't DIY this.
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Very much too complicated.
We are not judge and jury. We are a bunch of caregivers.
We are getting your own side in this issue and are not getting the sides of others who are involved.
I am dreadfully sorry for your pain, but I am afraid you are on your own with your own legal system in your own town and in your own state and with your own family.
Best I can do is to wish you luck, and I do that.
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