My husband has moved his mother into our house, (I owned the house before we got married), she is a paranoid schizophrenic, (also she is just generally not a nice person)and she stays up all night with her TV and radio on not to mention her light and thr bathroom light all night long. I haven't gotten a good night's sleep since she moved in, she will slam the cabinet doors when ahe cant find what shes looking for (which is right in front of her) she's VERY demanding and will confront me at 10:30 pm on Saturday about going to the bank which I tried ALL day Friday to take her to yet she refused to go to. Now he says he wants a divorce because he can't live like this, he quit his job to take care of her and I pay all the bills plus he wants me to do all the housework as well which I think is unfair. He says if I make her move out with him I'm cold hearted but she's not my mom, I don't think I should have to care for her if he chooses to move out. Am I in the wrong?
No, Angie should not just bag up her MIL's things and thrown them out on the lawn. Have some class and compassion. Not only is that the wrong thing to do, if their home is her official residence, it's also illegal.
The MIL is a sick woman and needs professional help. Her son and DIL can help her get it. She belongs in care or a supervised environment like a group home. She may not like it and probably won't, but often in life what a person needs is different than what they want.
I know this is not a popular post, so hold back the remarks please . My opinion is I can't judge your relation ship outta one paragraph. You need to do what you think is right. Only you know how you feel and what you want
I think that's a good thing.
Maybe let the dust settle on these very big events.
The husband may become quite shattered through this & need to rebuild himself into a solid person first. With his own new boundaries towards his Mother. This may take time.
Then, re-establishing your marriage as a 2 person relationship again may take time.